Message Board Madness

I am a big fan of a specific parenting website message board. I particularly like to take part in the debate board. I have found myself embroiled in a number of quite heated debates about a number of topics during the last several months, and have to say that I very much enjoy these electronic "conversations". That probably makes me seem weird to some people, but that is okay, becuase I know the truth. (I am weird.) Anyway, I try to not get upset with people that, when it comes right down to it, I actually do not know. I also try not to offend others. Thus my problem. Trying so very hard to remain as inoffensive and unoffended as possible I am quite surprised when people are offended by what I say, or take my words as proof that I am being defensive toward them. Just this morning I was reading a very lively debate, when I came across the typical tangent of who is being a jerk and why they should stop. I decided that while I usually do not get involved in that part of debates I would comment, just this once. Big Mistake #1. The particular lady that I replied to has been very vocal about her feelings about other posters and has been particularly offensive to a number of other participants recently. I actually have worried about her, as much as you can worry about a faceless person on the internet. She seems so very angry and I told her as much this morning, trying very hard to come across as a person concerned for her mental state. She has posted previously about her difficulties with her situation since a recent incident that left her husband disabled. I truly thought that I was being kind and trying to let her know that I don't dislike her, and actually agree with much of her opinions, but just think that her anger makes her message hard to hear. I didn't think that I was being rude at all, but apparently she and others did. My post was, in fact, removed becuase of the misinterpretation of my words.
I knew there was a reason that I only revealed my opinion on the topic at hand and not my thoughts on personal issues. I have learned my lesson and will be much more careful in the future. So if you see me on another site, don't expect me to tell you that I am concerned for you, or show any interest in you as a person, becuase apparently in the internet world people don't need such human sentiment. Who does when you have a cold keyboard and silent screen to fill the void?